My heart chakra healing(s) have been a series of very painful but incredible instances of letting go of pain while conscious. I think the most memorable ones involve me allowing myself to cry, whatever the cost, sometimes in public, sometimes not. One time was at my neurologist, and she set off some kind of reaction that I’d never had before, by talking about my father’s death. It normally never would have bothered me. I felt weird that day, and cried that morning. I cried at her office, and during and after the appointment. I never, ever would have done that. I cried by myself. I cried on walks. Each time, thoughts came to me like, “I approve of you,” or, “I appreciate you,” that had never occurred to me before. I let myself completely go in a way I never had before.
The heart healings for me were very painful, and would have been embarrassing, if more people had been around, but not really. I don’t care anymore. I just don’t.
I needed to be one with myself, and feel, for once in my life. So I did. And being with the real me, being only one person, was so wonderful.
The pending results of these heart healings are that I am more aware of what is going on in my body, my mind, and my spirit, and able to access them simultaneously, in order to interface with others healthily. Continually receiving heart healings, I am able to relate to others with compassion and empathy as a first mode of operation, most of the time.
As with everything, there are speed bumps. It’s called changing the pattern.
The primary teaching of the heart is compassion, but the way to reach this is gratitude. It is truly a simple idea, but there is no shortcut. Compassion must be built out of kindness and generosity to oneself.
There is no one in one’s life who is more important to oneself than the self, and in order to be compassionate to others, one must first be compassionate to oneself. Expending too much effort while giving often happens to empathic people, and can cause resentment, pain, and suffering, sometimes without them even being aware of it. Giving must be done truly without anger or blockages in communication.
This is so hard for people who are drawn to give to others, fix others’ problems, and be kind to others. I know! I’ve been there. It takes a good balance between discernment and wisdom, the third eye, and remembering that it’s ok to fill up one’s cup first. To prioritise the self. Dispersed efforts do not cut it. Consistent, persistent and focused efforts to be grateful and have compassion for the self leads to the ability to healthy humility and a rooted compassion that bears more and more fruit each time. Without first being able to give to the self, one cannot give to anyone else.
Excellent communication with others is wonderful, and often discussed. However, even the most introspective of us don’t always have the clearest, most transparent communication systems in place for ourselves. (Read more about identifying as an empath and the shadow of modern day spirituality). And that makes it difficult for the heart to truly turn inwards with humility and grace daily, and feed others with that Love.
Some are lucky enough to have been born without any trauma, and are at ease in life. However, each person usually has social norms enforced. Rumi says,“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
The point of being without barriers is not to be purified like a specific diet or religion dictates, or even to become wild again. It is to allow wisdom to grow within the self by allowing child-like behaviour to flourish. Not childish, but child-like.
With these words, Rumi instructs us to drain ourselves of the pre-existing notions and thoughts, existing in the presence of Love. Christ’s original teaching of faith and the humility of trusting in God the father was similar. Putting the ego aside, and allowing the child-like self to emerge.
This practise is called many things across the globe, and the most important part of it is that it allows people to reach Love, and their most inner, vulnerable state. My devotion to healing this part of me began when I started to identify with Mary Magdalene, for many reasons. I began picking up trash around the neighbourhood, because it was all I could offer her. I believe in the practise of Love as a practise of Unity, and it makes life easier and harder sometimes. Truly focusing on giving only to myself as an independent being was a difficult notion to absorb, and I am practising still.
The devotion of Love is to become it.
The next article will focus on the Throat chakra.