duality https://life108.net Create & Resonate Mon, 15 Apr 2019 11:23:42 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.6.4 137601391 The trap of Positivity https://life108.net/2019/02/19/the-trap-of-positivity/ https://life108.net/2019/02/19/the-trap-of-positivity/#respond Tue, 19 Feb 2019 09:25:07 +0000 http://life108.net/?p=1495 Is it possible to be too positive? Or is it perhaps negative to be too positive? Can a positive attitude […]

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Is it possible to be too positive? Or is it perhaps negative to be too positive? Can a positive attitude be harmful? Most definitely.

Can you be too positive?

What are you trying to hide behind that ever-glowing smile? What are you running away from? Stop denying it – it is not possible to always be positive. It is one thing to have a positive approach or outlook on life, but it is distinctly different from trying to convince yourself (and others) that you are an ever-positive person with nothing bad affecting you in life.

Why are we not allowed to have a bad day? Why are we afraid of admitting that something is not fine? What do we achieve by turning a blind eye to what is happening in the world around us? All for the sake of staying in a “positive environment” – or a fake one?

What are we afraid of? That if we acknowledge the “negative” things in life they will gain power? The thing is, by avoiding the negative things, we become unable to change it. You need to know the name of your enemy if you are to defeat it.

If you want to live an authentic life, you need to embrace all of life – the good and the bad. Don’t give up your authenticity, your humanness, for the sake of being seen as an always-positive person. I have so much more respect for someone who can break down and cry because life just sucks for that moment; being willing to lose the battle in order to win the war.

We need to embrace the good and the bad

It is in the darkness of the shadow that you will find the weapon needed to defeat the enemy. Embrace the chaos of life. Embrace the sadness. Embrace the pain. Embrace the injustice. Face it, head on and call it by its name. Allow it to punch you, push you, throw you and step on you, because until you know its routine, power and origin, you will not be able to overcome it.

But you cannot do this if you choose to focus only on the positive, to only look for the silver lining. You will not be able to experience the light that brings the silver lining of the dark cloud until you allow that cloud to empty all its rain.

We are often told to use positive affirmations, mantras, to help us manifest or overcome bad situations. But do they really work? Or is it just a band aid on a wound that actually needs stitches?

Focusing only on positive affirmations could be like putting a band-aid on a wound that needs stitches

Let’s break down the term “positive affirmations”:

Positive – Good, hopeful, nurturing, enjoyable circumstances. These are all synonyms or attributes of what we would consider positive.

Affirmation, which is to affirm – to state as truth and to support.

So when we create a positive affirmation based on a negative circumstance, what are we really affirming? Are we perhaps reinforcing the negativity? We are after all affirming that situation.

Let me give you a scenario: I hate my job. Like really hate it. So in order to help me cope with it and try to change it, I come up with a positive affirmation “My job is nurturing, supporting and makes me feel great”. I use it every day and it gives me some hope, but by the end of the day I get home frustrated and angry. That is because my “positive affirmation” is based on my negative experience, so instead of improving my situation, I am just reinforcing, affirming, the fact that I hate my job and trying to convince myself otherwise.

Positive affirmations need to be based on reality and not act as a distraction or something we use to try and convince ourselves. So a better “positive affirmation” for the above scenario could be “I am unhappy with my job, but I am open to finding ways to love it”. This way, you acknowledge the reality of the negative and you are calling in change, not just trying to convince yourself that everything is alright.

By acknowledge the reality of the negative and you are calling in change, not just trying to convince yourself that everything is alright

Positive affirmation, based on positive experience, work wonders in helping us focusing on and manifesting our goals. I will give an example of this:

I love my job and what I do, so I create a positive affirmation to help me excel in it such as: “My job is becoming more rewarding and fulfilling”, again affirming the reality (“becoming more rewarding” suggest that it already is rewarding) and calling in change.

So when creating affirmations, we need to affirm the reality and then change the energy.

We need to accept the duality of our existence. There is no running away from it. As long as you are here on this planet, there will be positive and negative experiences, on varying levels, until the day you die. No amount of ignorance will lead to bliss. But when you embrace the totality of life, you can turn the negativity in to positivity. Growing the light in your life so that you can handle the hard times better.

Growing the light in your life so that you can handle the hard times better.

Face the negativity more easily. Bring about positive change. We need to transmute and transform the negative energies in to positivity and the only way to do that is to acknowledge, accept and experience them. They won’t just go away. Energy cannot be destroyed, it can only change form and the only way you can change it, is to work with it. Love your negativity.

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Gods of Ourselves: Finding Neutrality in Polarity https://life108.net/2019/01/26/gods-of-ourselves-finding-neutrality-in-polarity/ https://life108.net/2019/01/26/gods-of-ourselves-finding-neutrality-in-polarity/#respond Sat, 26 Jan 2019 09:00:16 +0000 http://life108.net/?p=1325 Hot and cold seem opposite but they are only varying degrees of the same thing: temperature. When expanding our awareness […]

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Hot and cold seem opposite but they are only varying degrees of the same thing: temperature. When expanding our awareness in such a way we see there is no ultimate hot or ultimate cold! We grasp the concept that there is NO END to the hottest hot or the coldest cold, and we then find a place of neutrality within a world of polarity. This is the place of non-attachment, the “middle way.”

Not one single human can define Infinity let alone say what’s “good” or “bad” when it just is or else wouldn’t be and yet the only thing constant is change! It’s variation, levels of awareness or vibration, another facet or degree, different areas of a sliding scale without any actual concrete limits. All that is labeled there is no more than individual and collective OPINION based on a “current” perspective and perception, all of which is flawed due the human vessel itself! Partial truths everywhere, whole truth nowhere. That’s the design. No one completely knows for sure anything! We only speculate, conclude, assume, think so, beLIEve so, or feel so and find others of similar resonance (or susceptibility!) for petty, superficial, fleeting validation.

Defining and labelling the very essence and expression of who and what you are will always be futile and self-limiting. It’s helpful here to understand the difference between a human doing and a human BEING. It can be easily reduced and understood as: I am. You are. We are… Here to be alive, to simply express and experience this corner of the fractal. Labels and “Truths” may seem to point a certain way, but they also take away from individual experience and discovery itself.

For example, if I needed rehab I’d want to speak to and hear from someone that actually struggled with addiction themselves and overcame, not some “title” with a “piece of paper” whose whole experience of addiction has come solely from reading books someone else told them to read. There are two sides to that coin: Individual experience AND wisdom combined.

This is why I personally don’t entertain the whole light versus dark as if we are to pick some magical side. To me that’s nonsensical. Sure we can say light is love or light is information BUT to polarize to one side as if that’s the one and only “right” thing to do, we very ignorantly overlook the fact the best kept secrets are stored in the dark and treasure is often buried deep or hidden in the darkest corners of caves.

Do not fear the dark, fear breeds foolishness and ignorance. Learn to encircle and encompass as much of both illusions of sides, envelop the yin/yang, as One. This way it becomes easier to spot YOUR neutral center. Know you are the depths and heights. In you is the immense power to create and destroy. When you can tap into this mindset and being, you can really begin to understand the value in giving up the “either find someone else to blame or find someone else to give credit to” programming! Take full responsibility for yourself! You are the light AND the dark, you have nothing to fear and that INCLUDES fear itself. Your vibration and being can send the scariest monster running or make a saint look like a sinner. The power has always been yours. Use it. But use it wisely.

What’s “good” could always be better and what’s “bad” could always be worse. What’s too hot for one is ideal for another, what’s too cold for one is ideal for another. Understand and innerstand this and change the way you look at things, places, ideas, and people.

Through expanded viewing find the neutral balance point in situations, and your life, and anchor yourself there. (Your balance point is 100% YOUR inner happiness/contentment). Creating solidity, stability, and inner peace this way, you no longer have to go up and down on the teeter totter of this Earthly life. You instead begin to do what to many appears to be the impossible: You become a center point on an Infinite sliding scale.

How? Because you make it your own. You simply take it or leave it, it is or it is not, agree to disagree and keep living. Like Alan Watts said, the purpose of life is to be ALIVE! Every obstacle becomes an opportunity. The back and forth, the up and down, become more of a conscious CHOICE than you ever thought possible in this world of “opposites.” This is alchemy of the mind. You alchemize by expansion!

CHOOSE your vibration by CHOOSING to take control of your emotions and reactions. Claim your power and sovereignty like a mountain in the wind! Do not allow others to shake you and also know nothing here is what it appears to be, including yourself. Do not rule over others and don’t let others rule over you. Help where you can but don’t feel obligated and don’t feel bad if you simply can’t.

One of the greatest lessons to learn is waking up and “saving” ourselves! No savior outside of us is needed because we are already who and what we’ve been waiting for. Imagine a world where each person is self-empowered, secure, unable to be offended because they are sovereign unto themselves… Self-sovereign people don’t harm or control others for the simple fact there is no competition.

It becomes a personal quest of trying to be just a little bit better than the day before. Slow progress is still progress so don’t worry yourself too much. Hold strong your intent! Leading yourself also means inspiring others to become leaders of themselves as well. No one needs followers or to follow but rather reach a place of self-realization.

Learning how to overcome, think for, and lead yourself in this place where countless people and organizations are hellbent on manipulating and claiming authority over you, is one of the most challenging and rewarding works one could ever hope to achieve while visiting here in this meatsuit!

Just like how true healers are those who inspire others to heal themselves, true leaders want to help create more leaders until the ONLY thing a person has left to “follow” is their very own discernment, intuition, and heart. We are each the path of ourselves. Let us stop over-complicating this thing we call Life.

Join us on a journey into yourSelf. We will start off with a mini email course on Self-worth. Start the journey below.

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